At the age of 14, I dated a boy with blue green eyes that shined as bright as my nail polish. He was never too interested and I was never too confident. I hated cigarettes and he used to smoke in the back seat of the school bus. I was goody goody two shoes with black nail polish and glasses. He was part of the school "mob" [for lack of a better word]. He dated unattractive girls older than him. I dated boys who fit the part of a full-time companion and had time for me.
He collected empty booze bottles. I had an alcoholic father. He listened to Tupac and had pants that sagged so low that if he tripped, they'd fall off. I did not fit the description of "cool" and secretly listened to Chopin. He is the only boy who has ever properly dumped me and meant it and I am thankful. We did not fit the part.
It has been six years since I've seen him. I would like to apologize for being such a pain in the ass and get closure. And no, I'm am not re-enacting the movie, High Fidelity.
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Last time we guys met was something like 3 years ago. He was one of the first people to sit on the ahwa from his generation and he was a kind dude too. I miss his sister big time. She was one of my good friends back in school. Last time I saw her was in the Millenium Party 31st December 1999 at the Pyramids. Oh that was a night!
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Zeek, She is still here in Cairo by the way. I think she mentioned that she lives somewhere near alsson now. Your best chance if u wanna see her again is to go to night clubs or if you know Salami I am sure he can give u her number. Sadly she is not as pretty as she used to be.
Ha! Now you have the email, will u write the mail? if yes, why would u write it? Things are long gone now, if he sees it he won't understand it.
"He is the only boy who has ever properly dumped me and meant it and I am thankful"... Such a short sentence & yet with so many meanings,care to elaborate more?
Vem: I actually did write an e-mail. Regardless of whether he'd understand it or not, it was just something I wanted to do. Things are quite long gone. I totally agree. There are just certain things that pop into my mind and I usually act upon them if I see that they are appropriate enough to do. I was not expecting a reply and have not received one. At least I did what I wanted to do or felt I needed to do.
Vem: "He is the only boy who has ever properly dumped me and meant it and I am thankful" - He is the only guy who has ever dumped me and was blatantly honest aboiut it. I am thankful because it didn't allow me to go on an even bigger power trip than the one I went on. It also allowed me to breathe better. Anything else you need to know?
Vem:
They were living in Mohandessen before and they moved to a villa beside Alsson long time ago I already know that, but I heard from her brother last time I met him 3 years ago, that his sister is getting engaged at the end of the year (2003).
What is she doing here now? Teaching or drawing? Anyway the only Salami I know is the topping on my pizza and if that didnt make you laugh then you probably closed my blog after just 1 minute; that if you actually opened it. If you get to see her in those night clubs or through Salami, then please tell her Sherif Zaki says HI!
So Vem, who are you anyway? If you know how pretty she was before, then I am sure I know you, even if you werent with us in school; because our class was pretty much solid and united at the time. We were all together 24/7. And I cant remember anyone with the name VEM.
So?
Zeek:
Nah, she didn't end up teaching or drawing. I believe she is part of a creative team working in a very reputable agency. I don't know which one to be honest, they are all the same to me.
Yes, I believe someone was spreading a rumor that she got engaged. This is all wrong, for all I know she is single now.
There is a very easy way to contact her, u have her borther's email which is nicly posted for everyone to see, all u need to do is write him an email & I am sure he will be helpful.
Sukie:
I like playing devils advocate. For the time being I have nothing else to add but your thoughts/blog seem perfect which makes me wanna challenge them more.
Btw: Vem is not my nickname, it is a swedish term that I am very fond of. Its meaning is much more simple than u think.
Vem:
Swedish English
vem who
So what's your take on me writing an e-mail to him?
Sukie:
The title of this post is "Closure: Part One". If this is the kind of thing u need closure for then I am sure I will see 100,000 more closures to come. Personally I think u need closures for things that really impacted the other persons life, mostly in a negative way ofc. However, in this case I don't think the guy u wrote this to even cared or felt better after this.
I am sure there are other ppl who deserved your time & mail more than him.
Vem:
Not necessarily 100,000. There are negative things that I have done to other people that I do not need closure for. Does that make me a bad person? Lol.
I wanted to write to this "guy" you're referring to and personally do not care less if he cares or feels better about it or not. It is something I wanted to do and I did it. This blog is about me, not other people. Call me egotistical. Anyone would have every right to. Who else do you think deserves my time since you're so in tune with my life and those who surround me?
Sukie:
You seem like a person with depth, at least this is what I thought of you. I would normally like to think that u need closure for more important things, I don't understand how u dating a guy at a young age & finding out u were not a right match for each other would need any kind of closure. Afterall, I am sure many people passed thru the same situation exactly. [A guy is always more intrested than a girl, a guy is always more corrupt than a girl]---At least 99% of time.
I am not in tune with your life & therefore I don't know who deserves ur time & effort. But I am sure u did bigger mistakes that need closure. If this was one of your bigger mistakes then u r an angel.
Plz remember, you are the one was asked for my take on this.
Vem:
I'm sure a lot of people have gone through the same thing as well but maybe they don't value personal relationships as much as I do. Or maybe they're too busy attending to other things or other people and have no time to contact people they've lost touch with.
Unless you are a girl, I don't know how you're so sure that a guy is always more interested than a girl and that a guy is always more corrupt than a girl because I've seen many cases that have proven otherwise. And the cases I've seen definitely defy "99%".
I do not have to stress on my bigger mistakes and verify those as well as seek closure for them because I might have enjoyed them more. I personally don't consider him a mistake.
Thank you for giving me your take on this. I do know that I am the one that asked you for it and therefore completely appreciate you replying.
Have a nice evening. :)
I'm happy to be the topic of so much debate. Ok, I admit that me keeping in touch is about as likely to happen as a lab rat designing the new NASA space shuttle out of his cage. This does not mean I'm cold hearted or I have forgotten anyone. Sherif Zaki I have not seen you for years but I could paint your face and spot your voice in a crowd because I remember you as ebn halal and a good friend of mine and I'm sure if I was still living in Egypt we would be puffing ma3sil together now. Or maybe you have more will power than me and have quit the poison. I remember 'vem' aswell through my sister who is back in Cairo now. And all you guys in Egypt I hope I will see you again one day when I can get off this underwater island where the sun is like the lamp bulb in your fridge.
I am really pleased that Sukie found a way to contact me and it was great to know that someone is thinking of you even if you have not spoken to them in years. I never felt there was any need for closure because I knew we would get along if I ever bumped into her again and my memories of her have always entertained me and put a smile on my face so Sukie, thankx for being more pro-active than me and taking the first step.
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